Intimacy - The Forgotten Gift

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A powerful state of connection and a moment of physical awareness yet so poorly described.

The forgotten gift, truly untapped resourcefulness.
How come such present day social constructs made us so physically detached from each other?

Touch-starved day after day, the inability to create and bring different gender friendship beyond bland words and being nearby.

When did we start taking it so seriously...

Then we created excuses to hide/confine our emotions, complexifying the course of action, dissociating further from reaching routes of the problem, and being sold lies such psycho active medication that progressively numb us from meaning and our consciousnesses.

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A side touch on her hair, a deep stare into his eyes and soul, a well intoned prospect to an hereafter action, considerations to life's furthermore, and a well expressionated compliment. Who knows more. We created dissuasive thresholds that subconsciously delimit our capacity for close affection.

Who decided what was truly acceptable? Those kindergarten kids that kissed each other... Futility says someone tried to explained them the "Friendzone" concept. Perhaps they couldn't bother any less.

Different gender, similar age relationships, specially one-to-one hold an unique emotional component.

We could all deeply know each other. To diversify, cooperate and grow closely.

Bypassing the deeply rooted monogamy bias

The monogamy bias said it was a competition for the singular ultimate trophy.

Is it our genes or merely acquired?

Tribal group interaction has always dictated the judgement since the dawn of time.
As family members we've always seen our parents as major mentors. But they didn't actually dictated much any rules about it during your childhood and teenagehood. We've just settled with what was perceived to be a uncontextualized norm.

So how do you rewire these self inculcated beliefs?

The psychological role of the current indoctrination systems

Not until long ago, various states ruled their schooling system with same gender classes.
Many still do it. But let's take look beyond that, through the improvement of a nowadays mixed gender class.

The classical disposal of a classroom interaction it's still mainly based on system from 1 to many.
Teacher to students. Student to teacher. Sort of a client-server architecture from elementary to high school.

Such layout doesn't even try promote interaction in between students, much less a frontally and different gender closeness among various students.

I didn't even tried to spark curiosity into becoming interested and less afraid of the other gender expectations and way of being.

We've majorly became detached from other gender interaction, because the system didn't actively promote it.

We became gender ignorant and consequently less gender playful at a fairly young age.
This is also the paradigm that majorly contributes to the gender discrimination fallacy.

From detachment to inexperience and ignorance

There are multiple combinations of crossed systems that induce not only interpersonal detachment but various forms of progressive demoralization.
In the last 20 years, latest digital technologies have disrupted a myriad of behavioral patterns, undermining the capacity for growing deep meaningful opposite gender relationships along certain processes of connections.

We became more connected but the quality and depth have been replaced with masturbatory superficiality and short fast paced chitchatting in our verbal endeavors.

This concept fairly well represented in this video below:



Trading experiences for glimpses of appearance. The bad deal.

We're all affected by first sight physical attractions feeling, mean "Crushes".

Oh, yes, aren't we all born beautiful?

Homogeneous race, mixed race. We all have out traits/race preferences. Generically these preferences aren't really much precise. Excepting if you taking it seriously with a partner in which to procreate such similar traits and wished ones.

Somewhat baseless insecurities that plague us all...

Perhaps you just need to work on yourself, stop being so careless and sloppy, get yourself together, lose some extra weight, get your skin and teeth proper.

Could we even work together in such matters?
Synergies that would trigger constructive criticism, improvement and well-being.

The problem is that, we in fact didn't do the homework from the last topic.

Instead we end up deploying and feeding our insecurities by withdrawing onto browsing the ones that seem naturally above average looking and other short daydream love fads.

We trade experiences for fantasized one hit wonder expectations that we dream of exhibiting or other unavailability excuses do to our lack of experienced depth resulted in self-doubt.

Life could be so much more if it wasn't as much marketed and perceived as an overall exhibition game by many.

Most of us were born to accomplish and create value more than we passively witness and trying to rigidly follow other's means and ostentatious displays.